I found that my husband's day of deceiving me was always in my mind. I will never forget my confusion, shock, confusion and my uncertainty about what to do next. I was completely destroyed.
How did I find out?
As a freelance writer and editor, I work in my home office. In an interview with an article in a women's magazine, I stumbled upon Frank's infidelity. To ensure the accuracy of my notes, I always record my interviews using a recording device connected to my office phone. In the process of copying the interview tape, I was surprised to find that I unknowingly recorded some of the guilty calls Frank had made from our bedroom extension. Interspersed between interviews reveals the conversations between his associated women or women associated with her.
Perfect marriage
Frank may deceive me, this is the farthest thing in my mind, although his behavior has been a bit unusual in the past few months. When unfaithfulness emerged in my mind, it was just a fleeting idea - I found it quickly dismissed. This is so far-fetched, I didn't even seriously consider it. Frank and I have a very good marriage [or I think]. People who know us - even strangers, [male and female] often comment on what kind of "perfect couple" we are. I often have relationship articles in women's magazines, and I have won frequent visitors in the beautiful days of New York and several national joint radio talk shows. Our marriage [my second time and Frank's third wedding] is the envy of all our friends. Despite this, I still can't explain some of the weird little things that Frank has said and completed recently. No big deal - just a trivial matter for him, it doesn't seem to make any sense. I attribute it to male menopause [Frank is close to 50], or because he is working overtime to add pressure. I hardly know that these seemingly insignificant things will become obvious signs.
Under my nose
From the conversation on the tape, I found that Frank did not have one, but three lovers. I was stupid because he heard him take his weekend "fast" date with friends, he left work early, tried to stay with Michelle in the afternoon, Marlene lived in our apartment, and I was on a business trip and so on. Even more shocking is that all these things happen under my nose. According to my findings, I now see Frank's behavior through different eyes. I am keenly aware of how many signs I missed. Many strange things that Frank said and did suddenly began to make sense.
Wendy's story - another victim of infidelity
On a videotape, Frank mentioned his recent birthday, which was given by his best friend Max. No other details were provided except that the party was Max's girlfriend. Since Max's wife, Wendy, became my friend, I told her what I heard. Wendy is working on a single piece of information that I think is a masterpiece of detective work. In less than two weeks, she managed to find the name of Max's girlfriend, her phone number and address, where she worked, the address and phone number she worked for, and was able to determine how long it was. Continued. Wendy also found out exactly where and when the birthday party was held, what the cost was, the names of several guests who had attended, and the fact that Max was indeed the person who arranged and paid for the event. She even admitted a gift to Max's lover, who was hidden in the trunk of his car. Since Wendy and Max have a joint venture, she immediately took steps to protect her financial situation by transferring most of the joint funds to a single account - which surprised Max when he tried to withdraw funds without his knowledge [and尴尬]. Their marriage survived - in large part because Wendy did not sit down and become a passive victim, but immediately sought confirmation signs. She found them very early and took positive action to get her marriage back on track.
If I only know the sign
It is really devastating to find that Frank cheating. As a person of natural trust, although they are staring at my face, I have forgotten most of the signs. I later learned that when a person begins to take infidelity seriously, many signs will suddenly appear. In the past few months, if we have realized these signs when they first appeared, I will have different pains in the outcome of the matter. If I know the importance of these signs, I may be able to save our marriage. If this is not the case, I can at least protect myself through mental and emotional preparations and legally and economically protect myself from marriages that are extremely end to divorce. However, my marriage is not unique in this respect. This is one of the millions of marriages caused by extramarital affairs.
9 years of research and commitment
There were less than five books on the subject of infidelity at the time. I urgently need information, and I endured the embargo of buying them at local bookstores. As I struggled to understand what was happening, I began to seriously study the topic of infidelity in order to find out how to deal with this situation. My research led me to write a series of infidelity articles based on information collected by leading marriage and family therapists. Although I gained a wealth of knowledge and coping with infidelity and realized these signs, for me, this knowledge came too late. Frank and I divorced. But I promise myself that when I recover from the trauma of this experience, I will share this information with other women in similar situations.
Unfaithful statistics are shocking
Shockingly read statistics about infidelity. Although research and research vary, the most widely accepted figures indicate that between 50% and 70% of married men [38 to 53 million men] have deceived or will deceive their wives. One study found that two-thirds of the husband's cheating wife [26 to 36 million women] did not know that their husband had an affair - mainly because they did not recognize these signs. However, the media continues to view infidelity as a form of entertainment. Movies, novels, soap operas, talk shows, gossip columns and women's magazines continue to dramatize, dilute and beautify extramarital affairs. Few people take it seriously except the victims.
An unfaithful book was born - collect more facts
Is he cheating on you? - 829 Telltale Signs is the first of a series of information products for women victims of infidelity. It is based not only on my personal experience, but also on an in-depth study of the subject of infidelity over the past nine years. I have read thousands of infidelities, interviewed hundreds of women, learned about their personal experiences and the experiences of women they know, and dozens of cheating men. I have read hundreds of articles about infidelity, research and transcripts, and spent countless hours browsing the web to see sites, chat rooms, forums, message boards and discussion lists dealing with infidelity and related issues. Is he cheating on you? - 829 Telltale Signs is the result of all these efforts. This book I hope will show the first iconic sign in my marriage. If I recognize these signs early on, things may have different endings.
Numerous Telltale logos
Is he cheating on you? Probably the largest collection of flags ever. It records hundreds of signs of infidelity, including little-known signs that are not listed elsewhere. Despite the subtitle, it actually contains 950 glyphs. Even after the cover design is complete, I continue to add the notice sign until the final version of the manuscript is sent to the printer. The reader continues to send me a logo not included in the book by email or phone. What is the difference between him cheating you? It tells women how to find a warning sign of infidelity without using gadgets, surveillance equipment or private detectives. Are all signs recorded in his cheating? Any woman who only uses her eyes and ears, she can easily find her with her husband's personal knowledge and the information provided in the book. No special skills or equipment are required. These signs can be easily divided into 21 categories, so women can easily find signs that apply to her husband or marriage. Some markers are listed in more than one category, so no one will miss an important sign.
Share information with other women
This is how I share all the information I collect about infidelity, as well as other women in this traumatic situation. Unfortunately, any woman needs such a book, but the facts are self-evident. Hundreds of infidelities are undetected every day. Unscrupulous women need an easy-to-use, reliable, and inexpensive tool to help them find out the truth about what is going on. I am committed to providing this information to them.
Knowledge empowerment
Knowledge is power; I firmly believe that every woman should know how to identify signs of infidelity. The future of her marriage may depend to a large extent on her ability to identify signs in a timely manner. Nothing is worse than not knowing it - or least. But the first step in solving the problem is to know that there is a problem. If a woman does not know that her husband is cheating, then she can do very little. in case...
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